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• Urgent: Justice for Black Families, A Call to Action

  A seperated family in need needs our help.

  Support Bianca Clayborne and Deonte Williams in their efforts to reunite their family of seven after the Tennessee Department of Children’s Services unjustly and forcefully separated them from their children after... Read More

• ‘Peer Support is Fundamental to Keeping Families Together’

  In honor of National Reunification Month, Lindsay Reilly, a parent impacted by the family policing system, discusses her experiences with peer support both during her ACS case and since she reunified with her two youngest children last year. She... Read More

• How Rise is Working to Support Faster Family Reunification — And Shrink the Foster System

  In honor of National Reunification Month, Jeanette Vega, assistant director at Rise, discusses how Rise supports reunification of families separated by the foster system, explains how this work connects to our goal of abolition and highlights Rise resources by... Read More

• 2020 Reunification Month Video

  Happy Reunification Month to all the families who have reunified! You did it! Congratulations! This 2020 Reunification Month video was developed collaboratively by the ACS Workforce Institute, NYC Parent Advocates Council and Rise leaders. It is for child welfare-impacted parents,... Read More

• This Reunification Month, Let’s Commit to Parents’ Priorities for Reuniting Families

  This June, we are celebrating Reunification Month against the backdrop of COVID-19. Many in-person visits have been suspended, services have shuttered and courts remain closed, creating additional barriers to reunification. It always requires extraordinary stamina, resilience and hope for... Read More

• A Day to Remember: ‘I wanted them to know I missed them with all my heart.’

  My children came home a week before Easter, but when they walked in it was Easter for them. I had new toys, clothing and an Easter basket waiting for them. Even though they knew that I loved them, I... Read More

• How Holistic Legal Representation Supports Reunification

  As part of our Fighting for Our Rights series and in recognition of National Reunification Month, Rise is exploring how parent legal representation can support reunification. Here, Rise talks with Marty Guggenheim, professor of clinical law at NYU Law... Read More

• Breaking Down Barriers — Once I trusted my caseworker, I was able to make progress

  I met my caseworker Gloria when I went to rehab after I got the case. The first time we met, she explained how she could help me get my kids back if I put forth the effort. It was... Read More

• Plan of My Own — I didn’t think I needed services but I did them anyway

  I will never forget the day I returned home from an appointment and saw a note on my door saying that my children had been removed from home. I thought, “Did they take all of my kids?”

  When I opened... Read More

• Case Control — Your rights in service planning

  Parents who feel powerless during the service planning process often accept services, schedules and other demands placed on them by the child welfare system that they can’t do or don’t believe will be helpful because they aren’t informed or are... Read More

• Truth Without Fear — When your child’s in care, honesty and dishonesty are both risky

  Earlier this year, I sat down with a mother, her case planner and her CPS investigator. I was the supervisor on the case. The CPS worker began by stating that the mother was suffering from paranoia and because of that,... Read More

• Mommy Time — I had to change for my children’s sake

  I was angry at the world when CPS took my daughters Melanie, 8 months, and Amaya, 1 week old. I’d always wanted to avoid my kids going into foster care because my brother and I were raised in care.

  But it was... Read More

• Life Support — After years of chaos, I’m moving forward with the right help

  When my oldest daughter went into foster care five years ago, I was 20 and struggling. I’d signed myself out of foster care two years earlier and had been bouncing between youth shelters and my mom’s place.

  I went into... Read More

• Critical Planning — Good communication and the right services are key to reunification

  For parents trying to reunify with their children, completing the service plan within the 15 months allowed by federal law can feel like an uphill battle, filled with demands, court dates, conferences and impossible expectations.

  For parents struggling with trauma,... Read More

• After Care — I wish my service plan had prepared me for reunification

  After spending four years in foster care, my 7-year-old son and 6-year-old daughter were trial discharged to me in time for Christmas 2015.

  The family shelter I was in with my 9-month-old baby wasn’t our idea of home, but my kids... Read More

• Safe Inside — I’m helping my son feel secure despite difficult conditions

  Sara and her son

  Last year I reunified with my son, Aaron, who spent his first two years in foster care. Aaron is now 4 years old with curly brown hair, brown eyes and a smile that makes... Read More

• Portraits of Reunification

  June’s National Reunification Month celebrates the perseverance of parents reunifying with children from foster care — and the professionals who support them.

  Below are interviews with four parents who recently reunified with their children or are on their way. They... Read More

• How I reclaimed my son after reunification

  As a parent advocate, I used to advise parents in my support group about the reality of what they would face once their children returned home from foster care. I’d tell them that kids often act out, or don’t... Read More

• Influencing Adoption

  I froze. My head was pounding and I felt like that should have been my last day working in child welfare. I just wanted to go home and lock myself in my room.

  I was in Bronx Family Court, being... Read More

• Home for the Holidays: One mother’s reunification story

  Five days before Christmas 2015, my two kids came home from foster care on trial discharge.

  I was so ready for them to come back to me.

  It was the first Christmas we’d spent together in two years, so it was... Read More

• 4 facts about post-adoption contact

  Almost three years ago, I signed a “conditional surrender,” giving up parental rights of my oldest child, who was eventually adopted. The agreement stated that I would continue to be able to visit my daughter. The adoptive parent broke... Read More

• Adoption – A difficult choice for teens

  When I was 14 my father broke the worst news to me and my siblings. He told us he had one year to live.

  Almost immediately after he told us, he placed my sister and me in foster care, where... Read More

• Losing parental rights won’t stop me from fighting to be a dad

  When my son Isaiah was born on January 3, 2007, I was unsure whether I was his father. Then I laid his small body against my chest with my head bowed down to his and felt an unmistakable bond.... Read More

• My daughter’s adoptive mother broke our visiting agreement

  This is not about what’s easy to write. This is about what people need to know. This is a pain and suffering that never goes away. I really miss my little girl every single day. When I last saw... Read More

• My child was allowed to choose adoption at 9

  In 2013, I placed my oldest daughter in foster care because I didn’t know how to help her. She was 6 when she started to say that she hated me and her siblings and didn’t want to live with... Read More

• Missing My Children on the Holidays – Focusing on the future got me through this difficult time of year

  What I miss the most about my daughters, 6 and 7, is giving them a bath, drying them, watching them dance with their towels, lotioning them, and massaging their backs while they sing how good it feels. As they... Read More

• Safe Inside – I’m helping my son feel secure despite difficult conditions

  Last year I reunified with my son, Aaron, who spent his first two years in foster care. Aaron is now 4 years old with curly brown hair, brown eyes and a smile that makes everyone want to smile too.

  Aaron’s... Read More

• Time, Patience and Love – Despite fear, parents can get out of the system’s shadow

  Jeanette delivered this speech at the NYC Administration for Children’s Services Reunification Month event “Better Together: A Celebration of Families” at the Children’s Museum of Manhattan on June 25, 2016, and the New Jersey Legal Services’ Family Reunification Day... Read More

• Healing the Hate and Hurt – How I learned to control my anger so my son could come home

  Feeling powerless can make you feel angry. Angry is how I felt the whole three years my son was in foster care—and how I acted.

  Finally, a worker took me aside and was straight with me. She told me that... Read More

• Home Safe Home – I’m looking for supportive housing for my son and me

  Before my son came home from foster care, I lived in supportive housing for almost a year. My program helped me with practical things, like learning the NYC buses and trains. But the main thing they helped me... Read More

• Trying Again – This time, I have the support to face my feelings

  I first smoked crack on a cold winter day when I was 19. At the time I was feeling desperate. I’d heard that crack would make me feel no pain, and it did. What pulled me in was... Read More

• A Step in My Direction – I wanted to be left alone but kindness helped me find my way

  My kids were taken into custody in 2007. I was using meth and selling also.

  I never, ever wanted to hurt my kids. I thought I loved them with all my heart.

  At the time,... Read More

• Primeros Pasos – Tuve que aprender a conocer de nuevo a mi hija cuando regresó a casa.

  Read the English translation.

  Cuando mi hija Lydia tuvo 5 años, me hizo pasar momentos difíciles. Ella no quería lavarse los dientes o el pelo. No quería recoger sus juguetes. Tenía que gritarle por cosas pequeñas o decirle “¡Vete para tu... Read More

• Baby Steps – I had to get to know my daughter again when she came home.

  Translated from Spanish.

  When my daughter, Lydia, 5, came home after two and a half years in foster care, it was so different from having her home only on the weekends. The best part was that we didn’t... Read More

• Paying for the Past – After years in foster care, my son came home angry. Could we be a family again?

  On December 8, 2000, my 15-year-old son was discharged into my custody after spending a long time in a residential treatment center. I thought everything would be good. I had wanted him to come home for so long. But... Read More

• A Safe Place to Connect – How therapy can help your family heal.

  HELPING HAND

  Adrienne Williams-Myers, program director of Project Safe at the Northside Center for Child Development, explains how therapy can support reunifying families:

  Q: How can therapy help families reconnect?

  A: When parents and kids are involved in the system, their... Read More

• Making My Son Proud – I had to prove I could be trusted.

  My son Louie has been a good kid ever since he was small. He rarely complained about anything. He was one of those toddlers that clings to the mother. Wherever I went he was there. Summers when I was... Read More

• Mission Impossible – CPS is helping to reconnect my son and me even though I lost my rights

  Three years ago, my son was removed from my home because he had serious behavioral problems and I had become too sick and exhausted to care for him.

  I raised my son on my own until he... Read More