Posts Tagged: Someone to Turn To

Alone in the System – Would my son have come home sooner if someone had taken the time to know me?

I was 19 when I was arrested for hitting my 2-year-old son with a belt.

What I did wasn’t right and it wasn’t how I usually treated my son. Usually I loved him to death and spoiled him rotten. I had never hit him before. But that night my son got out of his crib and ran out of the apartment while I was taking a shower.

I felt so shocked and scared that I … Read More

Family Supports Save Lives – Research finds a link between investment in preventive services and reduced child deaths

When child welfare systems are forced to cut their budgets, often it’s preventive services that are hardest hit. The belief is that familysupports are nice if the government can afford them, but it’s investigations that prevent child deaths. But a 2012 study of 20 years of child deaths in Sacramento, Calif., found that cutting preventive services put children at risk—and wasted money.

Sheila Boxley of the Child Abuse Prevention Center, who headed the team that did … Read More

Home Safe Home – I’m looking for supportive housing for my son and me

Before my son came home from foster care, I lived in supportive housing for almost a year. My program helped me with practical things, like learning the NYC buses and trains. But the main thing they helped me with was not isolating myself.

When I was younger, I didn’t know positive ways of handling my emotions. When I felt too sad, afraid, lonely or angry, I would do whatever I could to escape those … Read More

Safe and Loved – I began to heal when I stopped carrying the burden of sexual abuse in silence

I used to walk down the street looking at people. People looked back at me. I wanted to talk to someone, but my mom told me not to talk to strangers. But I am a person that likes talking. And I needed to tell someone what was happening to me.

Carrying a Burden

My life changed when I was 9. I was hit by a car, and soon after I came home from the … Read More

Family After Foster Care – I want my daughter to have the love and security I finally found

I met my child’s mother when I was 21 and she was 22. After I got the courage to ask her out, we caught that instant connection. I had grown up in foster care, and she had come from drama, so we understood each other. Our relationship lasted for over four years and for a long time it was good.

In the last year, she became pregnant and we had a daughter. I really thought it … Read More